Ndukong Ernest Chefon: 2021

INTERNATIONAL DAY OF THE FAMILY

TOPIC: MANAGING YOUR EMOTIONS

BY ERNEST CHEFON NDUKONG, 15/05/2021

“I’D RATHER REGRET NOT SAYING OR NOT DOING SOMETHING THAN TO REGRET SAYING OR DOING IT” –Ernest Chefon

Definitions;

- 👉Family (Household); a group of individuals living under one roof and usually under one head

- 👉Manage; to work upon or try to alter for a purpose

- 👉Your; of or relating to you or yourself especially as possessor

- 👉Emotion; a conscious mental reaction

Some kinds of emotions and direct impact on human behavior

Ø Robert Plutchik’s Wheel of Emotions

{8 Primary states, Combinations (anticipation + joy= optimism), Intensity (if unchecked can intensify)}

1) Joy (pleasant emotional state characterized by the feeling of happiness, contentment, satisfaction, gratification, and well-being)

✔✔✔Direct relationship to mental and physical health

How and where to find joy?

- 👉Psalm 28:7

"The Lord is my strength and shield. I trust him with all my heart. He helps me, and my heart is filled with joy. I burst out in songs of thanksgiving."

- 👉Psalm 34: 5

"Those who look to him for help will be radiant with joy; no shadow of shame will darken their faces."

- 👉Psalm 15: 13

"I pray that God, the source of hope, will fill you with joy and peace because you trust in him. Then you will overflow with confident hope through the power of the Holy Spirit."

- 👉Proverbs 8:32-35

"And so, my children, listen to me, for all who follow my ways are joyful. Listen to my instruction and be wise. Don't ignore it. Joyful are those who listen to me, watching for me daily at my gates, waiting for me outside my home! For whoever finds me finds life and receives favor from the Lord."

v ⇒TRUE AND SUSTAINABLE JOY CAN ONLY BE FOUND AND GUARANTEED IN CHRIST

2) Sadness (transient emotional state characterized by feelings of grief, disappointment, disinterest, hopelessness, and a dampened mood)

✔✔✔If prolonged, can lead to a depression

How to get rid of sadness?

- 👉Psalm 34:17-18

The righteous cry out, and the Lord hears them; he delivers them from all their troubles. The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit

- 👉Deuteronomy 31:8

The Lord himself goes before you and will be with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged

- 👉1 Peter 5:7

Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you

- 👉Revelation 21:3-4

And I heard a loud voice from the throne saying, “Look! God’s dwelling place is now among the people, and he will dwell with them. They will be his people, and God himself will be with them and be their God. ‘He will wipe every tear from their eyes. There will be no more death’ or mourning or crying or pain, for the old order of things has passed away

v ⇒SADNESS CAN BE EXTINGUISHED BY TRUSTING AND CASTING ALL OUR CARES ON THE LORD

3) Anger (characterized by feelings of agitation, hostility, antagonism, and frustration towards others).

❓Some triggers to anger include; feeling;

- 🔁 threatened or attacked

- 🔁frustrated or powerless

- 🔁like we're being invalidated or treated unfairly

- 🔁like people are not respecting our feelings or possessions

✔✔✔Destructive consequences

How to heal from anger?

3.1) Control your temper;

- 👉Proverbs 19:11

Sensible people control their temper; they earn respect by overlooking wrongs.

- 👉James 1:19-20

Understand this, my dear brothers and sisters: You must all be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to get angry. Human anger does not produce the righteousness God desires.

3.2) Don’t let your feelings control you

- 👉Psalm 4:4

Don’t sin by letting anger control you. Think about it overnight and remain silent.

- 👉Proverbs 16:32

Whoever is slow to anger is better than the mighty, and he who rules his spirit than he who takes a city.

- 👉Ephesians 4:26-27

And don’t sin by letting anger control you. Don’t let the sun go down while you are still angry, for anger gives a foothold to the devil.

3.3) You pray

- 👉Colossians 3:8

But now you must put them all away: anger, wrath, malice, slander, and obscene talk from your mouth.

- 👉Colossians 3:12-13

Put on then, as God’s chosen ones, holy and beloved, compassionate hearts, kindness, humility, meekness, and patience, bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive.

3.4) Forgive

- 👉Ephesians 4:31-32

Get rid of all bitterness, rage, anger, harsh words, and slander, as well as all types of evil behavior. Instead, be kind to each other, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God through Christ has forgiven you.

3.5) Love

- 👉Luke 6:35

Love your enemies! Do good to them. Lend to them without expecting to be repaid. Then your reward from heaven will be very great, and you will truly be acting as children of the Most High, for he is kind to those who are unthankful and wicked.

- 👉Galatians 5:22-23

But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law.

v ⇒For every minute you remain angry, you give up 60 seconds of your peace of mind, therefore DESIST

Conclusion

I don’t want to be at the mercy of my emotions. I want to use them, to enjoy them and to dominate them. -Oscar Wilde

Ndukong Ernest Chefon

Thursday 20 May 2021

Ndukong Ernest Chefon: INTERNATIONAL DAY OF THE FAMILY TOPIC: MANAGING YOUR EMOTIONS